It's been forever since I've posted so I figured I would dive back in!
I've been noticing lately that I'm been getting myself extremely worked up over minor issues that ought to be minor annoyances. I think it's because my overall stress levels have been high and I've been juggling too many balls, so I let little things get to me.
For example, at my kids' camp, there are two entrances. One of them is right next to where I live and opens right into the camp area. The other is all the way around the block and involves walking through the entire building to get to the camp. Guess which door they keep locked.
I approached the director of the camp to ask if she could keep the other door unlocked just during the 15 minute drop off and pick up window. She told me she couldn't because she could only keep the front entrance secure, and security was her biggest priority. I had to accept this because I care about security too, obviously.
Until the next day when I went to pick up my kids early, found the front unlocked and totally unguarded, which is apparently how it is all the time. When I pointed this out, she gave me this big smile and said something about the custodial entrance being there. So.
Now I don't expect armed guards at the front entrance to the building, but if she's using security as a reason for keeping the more convenient entrance locked, it seems a bit hypocritical. It pissed me off to no end. So much so that I had trouble sleeping that night.
It bothers me how bothered I was by it. Yes, it sucks to have to walk around the entire building when it's 90 degrees out. But in the scheme of things, it's a minor annoyance.
So why do I let these things bother me so much?
That whole thing does sound annoying- but, like you said, your cup is overflowing, which is probably the reason it bothers you so mucch. You answered your own question in the beginning; I know that for me, when my stress levels are high, it is easier to get upset about the little things rather than deal with the major things causing the stress in the first place. I am a big fan of visualization and the 3 question rule. 1) Who is benefiting from this negative emotion? 2) Who is being harmed by the negative emotion? and 3) What is the negativity accomplishing? If the answers show that I am the only one being harmed, no one is benefiting and there is nothing to be accomplished or solved, then I visualize myself packing up the negative feelings, putting them in a box, and sending them away. Silly, but it helps. Good luck, and hopefully the rest of the summer is relaxing!
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